Update: This post was originally posted on 27th January 2020 but after changing my website this post had to be re-published due to technical issues.
Do you ever feel that you should be doing better?
I know I do! As I touched on in my post about how life has changed
over the last 10 years for me I have battled depression in the past. I remember in those dark days feeling like I was a total failure at everything. Thankfully those days are behind me but the feeling of not being good enough is there at times, just like I'm sure it is for many people.
Recently I've seen a few posts over a couple of social media platforms going on about how you are enough. These posts were aimed at mum's and how it doesn't matter if you're wearing the same outfit for the third day in the row, or if you're sporting a bun because you haven't had a chance to wash your hair that day. Not to worry because you are doing a great job as a mum.
I think this is such an important message for everyone to hear, not just mum's. It doesn't matter if you are a parent, grandparent, a young adult starting out in the world by yourself for the first time, someone just come out the armed forces or whatever walk of life you are in and at whatever point in life you are at, if you are trying your best you are enough.
We all have good times where we feel like we can take on the world and then we have bad times when we feel like we can do nothing right. I know I have them, there are times I feel like I have life figured out then there are times where it feels like I can't do anything without mucking up.
But I'm very lucky to have my amazing daughter, not too long ago I was having a bad time with my anxiety. She's now of an age where she knows when mum isn't right and we were talking as she was trying to make me feel better. I told her very honestly that I felt like a crap mum. I still think back on her reaction with tears in my eyes (even as I write this), she looked me right in the eye and with a voice that was not to be argued with told me I was not a crap mum that I am an awesome mum.
Whenever I feel sad or like a failure now I remember that in the eyes of my daughter I am not, I am awesome. And that my partner agrees with her, as when I told him about what she had said he looked at me and told me that my daughter was right.
I wish everyone had a little person next time them every time they felt they aren't enough so that they can get that little peep talk. However, I know that isn't the case so I'll just have to be that little person instead.
You are enough, if you get up everyday and do your best then you are enough. No matter what you achieve each day, no matter how big or how small that achievement is never forget you are enough.